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August 5th, 2008 -- After a long hiatus, Sandra's ashes have once again been scattered in a number of locations. Also added information to the ashes page and made some improvements to the website template.
Sandra's wishes were to be cremated. However, she didn't leave any particular instructions as to what she wanted done with her ashes; knowing her, that may have been her intention, to let those remaining make the decision. Add to that the fact that both Lillian (her mother) and I wanted to keep some, and I started to think. We asked the crematorium to split her ashes between two urns (which are sealed) and to leave enough over for us to scatter. Mike (her older brother) has some plans of his own and (as usual) my plans started to run amok.
As you know, if you knew Sandra, she loved to travel. Her passions (at least later in her life when I knew her) were chocolate, tea, books, children, lilacs, her dogs, and travel -- not necessarily in that order. It occurred to me that it would be wrong to scatter Sandra's ashes in only one place.
Thanks to her good friend Peggy, I also realised that it is important that at least some of her ashes are scattered in some definable location in the area where she lived, so that people can go and visit her, bring her the flowers she adored, and be with her. Sandra had two express wishes with respect to her legacy on this Earth: 1) In keeping with her concern for the environment she did not want to take up space; and 2) She wanted the absolute minimum spent on dealing with her remains. On the first anniversary of her death I scattered some of her ashes in Queen Elizabeth Park in Vancouver. The details are below under the highlighted date of February 16th, 2004.
I then thought of places that were special to Sandra, of places she spoke about with joy in her heart, of places we had spent time together, and of the places we never would see together. I started to make a list. Below are the some of the places where I have scattered some of her ashes. I will also take Sandra with me on any of my future travels, and some of her will stay behind at each stop.
As of Sunday, July 27th, 2008, Sandra's ashes have been scattered in 20 locations on 4 continents in 1 sea in 15 countries and 1 Canadian province.
The most recent scattering is indicated on the map above by the bouncing ball. The free Flash Player is required to see the map.
Scattering details
Place
Date
Notes
With the exception of the scattering in the Mediterranean Sea, the coordinates for which were obtained from the ship's navigation system, all coordinates below have been obtained from Google Earth.
Fort St. John, British Columbia, Canada 56° 14' 43.24" N 120° 44' 30.59" W *
August 27th, 2003
First scattering. When working for CP Air in Fort St. John, Sandra used to love lying in the grass at the end of the runway to watch the Boeing 737s take off over her. Her ashes were scattered in the same grass near the threshold of runway 20. She will forever look up at the aircraft taking off over her from runway 02. Long-time friends Peggy and Chris were present, as well as Alvin who worked with her at YXJ.
Victoria Falls (Mosi-oa-Tunya), Zambia 17° 55' 42.67" S 25° 51' 26.16" E
September 26th, 2003
Although Sandra never visited Victoria Falls, we were planning to do so in late 2002 had she been strong enough to travel. I scattered some of Sandra's ashes from the Zambian side of the Victoria Falls Bridge (over the Zambezi River) in the company of my friend Arthur from the UK, with whom Sandra corresponded occasionally. It was initially my intention to scatter her ashes from the bottom of the bungee jump from the bridge, but the logistics were too difficult.
Sandra would have loved to visit this "English manor in the African bush", complete with all of its rich history. Although it wasn't originally my intention to scatter some of her ashes here, I thought it a perfect setting. Friends Arthur from the UK and Heather from Zambia were present.
Gemsbok National Park, Botswana 25° 33' 57.9" S 20° 41' 18.08" E*
November 6th, 2003
The Gemsbok National Park in Botswana and the Kalahari Gemsbok National Park in South Africa together form the Kgalagadi Transfrontier Park which, as the name suggests, spans the South Africa / Botswana border. Just inside Botswana, by the road that meanders along the border, I scattered some of Sandra's ashes in the presence of my Uncle Stewart and Aunt Rona. Now she is closer to the lions that so fascinated her on our trip to South Africa in 2001.
Orkney, South Africa 26° 58' 27.43" S 26° 39' 54.27" E
November 13th, 2003
Sandra admired my nanna's garden when we visited here in 2001, and the two of them enjoyed time together over cups of tea. It seemed like a good setting for Sandra among the strelitzias (birds of paradise).
Harare (formerly Salisbury), Zimbabwe (formerly Rhodesia) 17° 46' 33.75" S 31° 1' 4.64" E
December 1st, 2003
I scattered some of Sandra's ashes in the garden of the house where I grew up. Rhodesia is the land of my birth.
Amsterdam, Nederland 52° 21' 26.6" N 4° 52' 51.64" E
December 15th, 2003
Amsterdam was one of Sandra's favourite destinations. Although we didn't have a chance to come here together, we had made some tentative plans around the blooming of flowers in one of the well-known gardens here. I scattered some of Sandra's ashes amongst a small grove of trees next to the van Gogh museum, a place I am quite sure she would have visited while here.
Vancouver, British Columbia, Canada 49° 14' 30.61" N 123°6' 53.04" W
February 16th, 2004
On the first anniversary of Sandra's passing I scattered some of her ashes in Queen Elizabeth Park. You can find the location amongst the daffodils (at least for that part of the year when they are blooming) in the north side of the oval flower bed opposite the cedar of Lebanon tree. The tree and its associated plaque are item 7 on the maps posted in the park.
Macksville, New South Wales, Australia 30° 42' 23.34" S 152° 55' 17.83" E
March 9th, 2004
I don't believe that Sandra made it to Australia; I know it wasn't high on her list of places to go when we were together. I scattered some of her ashes in the Nambucca River in Macksville, about 10 km before the river runs into the Tasman Sea in the Pacific Ocean between Australia and New Zealand. The area is a beautiful one, full of beautiful sandy beaches that I know Sandra would have loved.
Perth, Western Australia, Australia 31° 49' 34.97" S 115° 44' 29.49" E
March 25th, 2004
If Sandra would have loved the beaches on the east coast of Australia, she would have just adored Perth with its almost-unbroken string of beautiful, white, sandy beaches. I scattered some of her ashes in the Indian Ocean here.
Zürich, Switzerland 47° 21' 49.65" N 8° 32' 42.7" E*
July 6th, 2005
While on a brief stop in Zürich, on a day when the weather was terrible for a summer day, I went down to the Zürichsee (also known in English as the Lake of Zürich) and scattered some of Sandra's ashes in the lake. Apparently when the weather is nicer, you can see the Alps from there. In many respects, the Zürichsee is to Zürich what English Bay is to Vancouver. Sandra visited Zürich some years ago with her friend Kathy.
Stirling, Scotland 56° 7' 28.94" N 3° 56' 47.23" W*
July 20th, 2005
On a visit to Stirling Castle, former seat of past Scottish royalty, I scattered some of Sandra's ashes amongst the flowers in the Bowling Green Gardens, a lovely setting within the walls of a spectacular and commanding castle on the River Forth.
Sudden Valley, Washington, United States of America 48° 43' 1.5" N 122° 18' 57.59" W*
February 16th, 2006
Before we met, Sandra used to enjoy water skiing with family and friends on Lake Whatcom near Bellingham. On the third anniversary of her passing, my friend John (with whom Sandra quickly formed a strong bond when they met) and I scattered some of Sandra's ashes there.
Monaco-Ville, Monaco 43° 43' 55.06" N 7° 25' 36.97" E*
July 18th, 2008
In a setting that Sandra would surely have described as "spectacular", I placed some of her ashes at the base of a tree in the gardens just down the hill from the Palais Princier (Prince's Palace) in Monaco.
Barcelona, Spain 41° 21' 22.67" N 2° 10' 37.57" E
July 20th, 2008
On a beautiful Spanish evening I scattered some of Sandra's ashes in the harbour at Barcelona.
At sea, Mediterranean Sea 38° 45.86' N 7° 25.38' E
July 21st, 2008
Using a stone collected in Barcelona, a single tissue, and a blade of grass plucked from a floral arrangement on the ship, I created a neat little package containing some of Sandra's ashes to be dropped into the Mediterranean Sea. (Sandra would have been impressed with my attempt to keep things environmentally-friendly.) At 17:14 (UTC plus two hours), somewhere southwest of the coast of Sardinia and approximately half way between the Balearic Islands and Tunis, I dropped her from the stern into the ship's wake, and watched as she sank.
Carthage, Tunisia 36° 51' 17.71" N 10° 20' 4.34" E
July 22nd, 2008
The ruins of the Antonine Baths in Carthage, on the shore of the Mediterranean Sea, seemed like a nice spot, so I scattered some of Sandra's ashes there.
Valletta, Malta 35° 53' 42.23" N 14° 30' 42.21" E
July 23rd, 2008
In Valletta, the capital of Malta, I buried some of Sandra's ashes in a nice flower bed in the Upper Barrakka Gardens overlooking Fort Lascaris, where there is a ceremonial firing of a cannon at noon each day.
Pompeii, Italy 40° 45' 0.87" N 14° 29' 12.21" E
July 25th, 2008
As you will know if you knew Sandra, she had a great sense of humour and a sense of mischievousness. So what better place to scatter a few of her ashes -- among the excavated ruins of Pompeii -- than in a walled garden (although it may very well have been indoors during Pompeii's heyday) closed to the public right behind the famous Lupanar -- or brothel. A scattering always calls for a moment of reflection, but this one also called for a chuckle.
Rome, Italy 41° 53' 30.11" N 12° 29' 10.16" E
July 27th, 2008
The ashes of the late partner of a good friend of mine, who also got to know Sandra briefly, are scattered among the foundation stones of the Temple of Vesta in the Forum of ancient Rome. Since Dave and Sandra formed a quick and close bond, it seemed fitting that some of her ashes be scattered nearby -- and they were, also among the same foundation stones, but in a slightly different place.
Midland, Ontario, Canada
TBA
Future scattering. Sandra's family had a cottage on Georgian Bay in Ontario where she spent many of her formative years. I plan to find it and scatter some ashes there.
Tofino, British Columbia, Canada
TBA
Future scattering. One of my favourite places to relax, and a place that Sandra visited with her friend Marie shortly before we started dating.
Garibaldi Lake, British Columbia, Canada
TBA
Future scattering. Every summer for quite a few years, Sandra and her friend Vicki would hike up to Garibaldi Lake. The last time she did it was with me in 1999; after that hip and back injuries sustained at work, and eventually the cancer, prevented her from going on this annual pilgrimage.
Ruby Lake, British Columbia, Canada
TBA
Future scattering. The last holiday Sandra took, in September 2002, was her reward to herself when she completed her initial six months of chemotherapy. We stayed at Ruby Lake, and took a day cruise up to Chatterbox Falls further up the British Columbia coast. Sandra and I spent some very special time together on a small island in the lake after swimming over to it.
Curaçao, Bermuda, Barbados, Greece, Israel, Cultus Lake (BC, Canada)
TBA
Future scatterings. These are all places that Sandra has visited. It's an ambitious list, but maybe one day she'll go back to all of them.
* Coordinates marked with an asterisk are approximate -- as close as I can get with Google Earth. Entering these coordinates into Google Earth might not yield the exact location of the scattering.